Your friends are the ones that stay with you forever. Especially about close friends, even if you don’t see each other for years, nothing will change in between you when you meet again. That’s the beauty of friendship. However, with relationships it doesn’t work that way, while mostly you live your relationship more intense than friendships and things like distance, loss of enthusiasm and time in between are factors that can easily damage relationships.
I am 22 years old, and actually I started dating with girls quite late (around 18). I had few serious relationships, yet, there is a person, who deserves a place in this page, and much more.
My longest relationship so far, Cigdem Ertikin, a girl whom I had the chance to meet in my local in AEGEE. Chasing after her for some months, finally I managed to trick herJ, that ended up as my longest relationship so far, 2.5 years. We lived together, we travelled together, we did many things together as normal couples do.
What makes this relationship more special is how the situation is now.
We broke up some while ago, and a brake up is never pleasant of course. But that’s not what I m talking about.
What makes the situation really special is how we treat each other now.
Right now I m in Turkey to visit my family, and I was in Canakkale for 3 days, and I stayed at Cigdem’s place, because I lived there with her for 1 year in the past, so I m used to staying there. The only difference was, that I was sleeping on the sofa now:)
It was the first time I saw her in person after our break up, but we have talked quite a lot after that online or by phone, and I knew that we will continue our chats, jokes and meeting our common friends when we meet. I was right. When we met, we spent all the time together, catched up, talked about our relationships after our breaking up, and met our friends and had fun alltogether.
Today before I left for Istanbul, I felt like we really are an example for ended relationships, a real example of how you should remain after breaking up. Before you are lovers, you should be friends, and then love should come. Because if love goes away one day, you can continue in the basis of friendship.
I was proud of myself and of Cigdem about our achievement in that sense, that not many couples manage to do. Yet, as I said, I wasn’t wrong, while I was sure that it would be no different than this, while Cigdem is also a very realistic, smart and qualified person.
I really am sad for people that had ‘ great ‘ loves and now not talking anymore, or end up hating each other. Because life is too short to do that.
Cigdem found love again, and I m really happy for her. She had found a guy that I really see that she loves him and is happy with him.
After you read this, you may ask ‘ Is Percin still loving her ? ‘
Of course I love her, and I ll always love her. I love her as my friend and companion to share something when I need to. And I m very glad she found someone who is in love with her:)
I would like to thank Cigdem for making me proud and happy, once again.
